We all want what’s best for our daughters – especially when it comes to their wedding day. Trust me, I get it, because I’m a mom myself! That’s why working with a seasoned full-service planner is crucial; it ensures that your daughter has a truly unforgettable day. So, let’s make it happen for you!
As a wedding planner, one thing I have learned over the past 24 years of being in business is that moms and daughters are not always on the same page. Emotions can run high – especially if your vision differs from hers! This is most unfortunate and can turn into a disaster especially if you do not communicate well. This is where having a professional full service planner will really help! Let me show you the value that my team and I can produce for you.
Here are the top 4 reasons to hire a wedding planner, Mom.
- Mom Knows Best
- It’s Your Daughter’s Day Too
- Lifetime Memories
- Full Service Planners are your best resources
Let’s face it, Mom, you have been planning your daughter’s wedding since the second she was born. This cute little bundle of joy you were staring at was all grown up in your eyes donning a stunning white wedding dress and ooh la la the flowers were on point. Then she grew up and she wants a purple wedding dress, and boxwood greenery everywhere. Here is where some good communication will come into play.
As a mother, you did the best you could to make the right choices for your daughter as she grew up. Now your daughter is stepping out on her own and making decisions for herself. If this is creating a conflict leading up to her big day, then know that my team and I can act as a mediator and find a happy compromise. Having a professional team by your side can alleviate tension and unhappy feelings – and let’s be honest who wants to remember conflict on their most special day?
Mom knows best as she has done this before and while it may have been a while ago that is why she choose to hire a wedding planner to be in the know with the latest trends, to confirm proper etiquette, to stay within the allotted budget, and most importantly to have fun with you, her daughter during your engagement while the full service planner does all the heavy lifting!
Mom, it is your daughter’s day too. When you work with us as your full service planners we do a vibe check to make sure we are progressing the way everyone wants. So, when I say “vibe check, how are you, the bride, feeling about everything thus far?” If you say yes it’s great, just know you chose to settle otherwise this is the time to speak up and say well, my actual idea was this, then I can help you both talk it out and come to a mutual understanding. We are all trained in mediation from the Dale Carnegie Institute and have taken many classes and I have even taught the class 3 times plus all the field experience we have under our belts. You know you can trust us. Most mothers and daughters end up closer than ever after working with us as long as they are honest. I know it can be hard when Mom is paying and your ideas differ but I have found that talking through them always works out. It is when you are quiet and do not speak up for yourself that issues arise.
Working with a team of full service planners and designers is a sure bet to solving all your problems, it definitely makes it easier with an expert by your side who has been through this before many times and can guide you to get exactly what you want.
Resources like full service wedding planners can be a great asset for Mothers of Brides who are looking to purchase wedding planning services. These professionals have the knowledge and experience to help couples plan their wedding from start to finish. They can provide guidance on budgeting, wedding etiquette, vendor selection, and timeline management. They also provide invaluable advice on trends, design, and wedding weekend. They also offer couples access to support whenever they need it.
I once had a mother frantically email me that she could in no way complete planning her daughter’s wedding in 3 months and her daughter had decided on a date and refused to budge on it. Mom knew they needed help and Mom was paying so she hired me, before I agreed to work the wedding I insisted on a meeting with both the mother and daughter together. They agreed and thus began our journey.
At our next meeting they were arguing about the centerpieces, I began mediating and looking back I wish I would have said your venue does not match your eclectic taste. It did not in any way. In the end we agreed to some of the mom’s ideas on a traditional simple flower centerpiece incorporating the daughter’s love of colored antique glassware. They had already chosen a luxury venue with vaulted ceilings and these centerpieces were very small in the scheme of the grand room. I tried to explain this to them but they wanted what they wanted, so I conceded because in the end I want my clients to be happy and as time wore on and the big day approached they did end up loving my design and with some last minute changes we were at the wedding of her dreams!
I can not stress enough that if you are paying, Mom, please have the hard conversations with your daughter prior to meeting with your planner and make sure you have some boundaries. Daughters just because it is your wedding does not mean you get everything you want. While we would all love for it to be this way it is not realistic and if your mom is paying please have that hard conversation with her, ask what the boundaries are, ask what the real budget is, and most importantly please respect your mother.