Hate your wedding vendors?
Are you not getting what you want from your wedding vendors?
Most of the time this happens when you are trying to DIY your wedding. It becomes a relationship of love and hate your wedding vendors.
Do you hate your wedding vendors?
When you hire a professional it can alleviate this problem, especially hiring Weddings of Pittsburgh with over 20 years experience and professionalism serving clients in the North Hills, Pittsburgh, and beyond. Conversely, when you go against the advice of your planner and become the point person you confuse the wedding vendors and create chaos. Weddings of Pittsburgh handles everything from beginning to end, click here to learn more.
If you still insist on DIY , refusing professional help here’s an article for reference. Please remember planning your own wedding will take countless hours of your time. An average wedding takes approximately 300 hours to be planned from beginning to end.
Let’s think about this logically. Would you cut your own hair? I know I most definitely would not, I want it done right. If you would cut your own hair don’t bother reading on, my advice and expertise is most definitly not for you. Even a professional hair dresser gets their hair cut by another professional hair dresser.
One bride I had been working with teamed up with her mother and called and emailed vendors numerous times right after I had called them. Then the vendor would call me confused as to why their time was being wasted. I informed my client that this was a breach of my contract and that I was handling their wedding professionally and that we had just gone over all this at the monthly meeting, so there was really no need for them to do anything. The mother continued forcing her overbearing nature on the situation month after month, pretending everything was great to my face, when obviously she wanted more control in the background. Instead of speaking up and communicating that, her actions caused unnecessary stress on everyone involved. After repeatedly telling the mother not to call and email the vendors up to 10 times a day because they didn’t answer fast enough, repeatedly for months, I emailed them to say I would be letting them go as clients. At this point the overbearing mother had then forced her daughter’s fiance to call me and tell me that he was doing the break ing up. I listened to him and told him that I was sorry it had to end that way, he was a very kind and compassionate man. I told him I would need a final email stating that they wanted to terminate my services and he said he would have his fiance type it up that night. This is why I have it spelled out in my contract that one and only one person makes all the decisions.
The mother wanted to play planner. She refused to be a part of the process. She confused all the vendors and had them hating her tactics and calling me to comisserate and complain. They ended up paying at times up to double for vendors and unnecessary services because of all the confusion and dismissal of a professional.
Vendors want more work, they refer planners because this makes their jobs easier. Plus, I can afford them up to 10 more jobs that year alone giving me more leveraging power. Most of the time I can resolve the problem and get you what you want. Also, you are only getting married once thus leaving you in a precarious position.
As a professional in my field, I always try to rectify conflict prior to escalation beyond the point of no return.
But, recently I had a situation where it went too far and I had to let the client go. Firing clients is not an easy thing to do – it’s very disheartening and upsetting. One of my mentors, Marcus Lemonis, says “people, product, process.” I have and always will trust my process. I have achieved great success following this business acumen.
Stress and overwhelm can be a huge factor in unmatched expectations.
You must be open and communicate clearly the problem. That is the only way to fix it. The stress this client caused due to contract breach multiple times was unfortunate for both of us. I have had numerous doctor visits and been very sick with an ulcer and anxiety over this situation. I take my career very seriously and perform to better than expected standards. I have been emailing, calling and texting to show this client that you simply cannot handle the vendors on your own, cut me out of the process, and expect those vendors to report to someone different on the day of the event. As my vendors and partners know, it simply will not happen. Despite numerous references I provided, abundant social media profiles, and vendor confirmation on my stellar reputation, the client and I parted ways one week before their big day. Honestly I cried – both because I felt like I failed despite giving 100% and then some. But, mostly because I know how much stress this client is going to face this week trying to pull everything together without me planning.
My process for full planning is a very strict process.
It involves me being the orchestra leader, my vendors as the band, and my clients as the guests of honor. Throughout this process, I make sure that each wedding is run completely smoothly and flawlessly. Any glitches that arise are easily overcome because we are all well prepared in advance and work together cohesively.
When a client micro manages the planner, calls vendors second-guessing the efforts of the planner, refuses to make important decisions, and wants to be overly involved after a decision has been made, (especially when the planner has a distinct pedigree such as my own) it causes many problems for all involved. Worse than that, it causes vendors and partners to lose confidence in the skill set of the event planning industry as a whole. The client often doesn’t realize that when working as a team, we often pull resources together for staffing, setup, tear-down, and event management. That just doesn’t happen when the orchestra leader is no longer involved.
Do you hate your wedding vendors because of something you have done or they have done to you?
Still cannot get along? It may be time for a break up. Exhaust all efforts before doing this or it will just happen again with the next vendor. Ask for references and then call or email them and follow up, do your due diligence in the beginning to avoid possible pitfalls in the future.
My advice to anyone reading this is to be sure to trust your process, know you are doing the right thing, stand up for what you believe in, respect yourself and always be true, even in hard situations and then you will not hate your wedding vendors.